When Is a Healthy Time To Stop Co-Sleeping?

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As Poppy’s 6 month birthday has come and gone, it leaves us to decide, when do we stop co-sleeping?

With Aubrey, at 5 and a half months, we began the cry it out method to transfer him into his crib. I remember feeling so fed up with having to wait until he falls asleep in my arms or nursing and wanting to have my whole side of the bed back. I was 100% ready to do what I needed to do to get him into his crib through the night and learn to self-soothe.
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Poppy is a whole other ball game. Maybe it that second baby syndrome, or the fact that I deep in my heart know that she could be my last. Maybe it is that time is flying by too fast. Whatever the reason, I couldn’t even think about putting her into her own room in her own crib. I want her beside me, wherever that may be.

Now, I know that this is a touchy subject and that moms will either be for it or against it so I will give you a rundown on why this decision was right for US. The main reason we didn’t put Poppy into her crib right away was that the risk of SIDS  significantly drops after 6 months, that to us is the magic number. Another reason, I NEED sleep. Without it, I am not a good mom, wife, or worker. Rolling over to feed a baby 3-8 times a night is a lot less hard on the sleep then getting up each time into a separate room. And the final main reason is that Poppy’s room is on the other side of the house from our bedroom. That is a very large distance if any emergency were to happen.

wild rosebuds in an embroidered SheInside Turtleneck sweater chatting about Co-Sleeping wild rosebuds in an embroidered SheInside Turtleneck sweater chatting about Co-Sleeping wild rosebuds in an embroidered SheInside Turtleneck sweater chatting about Co-SleepingSo, we co-slept. it was the right decision for us with Aubrey and is the right one with Poppy.

But now the decision lies between continuing to do so, or just get on with it and do the cry it out all over again. My mommy gut is unsure.

On top of all of these questions, we have moved Aubrey into her room because the furnace and baseboards are far more quiet, allowing him to sleep through the night. But it makes me confused with trying to get them to sleep in the same room at this stage or to move Poppy into his room and pray that she gets used to the noise. Guys, I am all sorts of confused.

For now, I will test the waters by placing Poppy in her crib for nap time. What would you do in these situations?

 

 

 

 

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Comments

  1. I am co sleeping with my 5 month old little boy but am starting to feel how you described you felt with Aubrey. I am afraid of the CIO method but thinking it’s the only way I will get him to learn to self soothe. He even naps one most of the time. Was is a bad experience with your little boy?

    • It wasn’t bad, it just was hard because he was stubborn so he cried every night for a month. We loved the book ‘healthy sleep habits, happy child’ and referenced that as lot for how to do CIO. We found the best thing was to not go into the room at all.

  2. We co-slept until she was about 4 months old, around that time she refused to go back to sleep when we go to bed around 11:30. I decided it was her telling us she needed her own space. Moving her into her crib (in her DockATot) was the right move for all of us. She sleeps great in there!

  3. I kept co sleeping till it wasn’t right for the bub. With my first that was at 8 months, 2nd 12 months third we are at 16 months and still co sleeping.
    Have you thought about bringing Poppys cot into your room, next to your bed then gradually further away? Maybe read some Dr Sears (great advice) and the Gentle Sleep book which is meant to be brilliant with all sorts of alternative ideas. Best. X

  4. I loved Co sleeping with my second but it also came down to getting sleep. I think the sooner you move her the better! It’s tough, but the thought of having a toddler crying to come in bed daily is tougher. Kids need sleep and they need to learn to self soothe. It’s tough. I kept nursing as that still helped. Also, I nursed when my kids woke up and laid them back down tired so they would fall asleep by themselves. I never wanted to nurse while sleepy as they just fall asleep half hungry. I would nurse them in the night when hungry but they had to learn how to fall asleep without being drunk on milk!

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